Over-Functioning

Why Doing More Is Killing Love — and How to Stop

Live Workshop

March 18th 4pm EST/ 7pm PST

You don’t chase.
You don’t beg.
You don’t collapse.

You compensate.

You plan the dates.
You keep things moving.
You smooth over the gaps so nothing feels uncomfortable.

And without realizing it, you train him to disappear inside the dynamic.

How Doing More Trains Others to Do Less

(Without Either of You Deciding It)

When you overfunction, you send a silent message:

“I’ve got this.”

So he stops initiating.
Stops planning.
Stops leading.

Not because he doesn’t like you —
but because the space where his desire would rise is already filled.

You become the one who:

  • suggests the plans

  • follows up when things stall

  • keeps the connection alive

  • waits patiently while he “figures things out”

And slowly, you’re no longer being chosen.

You’re being kept.

This Is How Women Become the Placeholder

Not because they’re unworthy.
Not because they’re “too much.”

But because they’re doing the emotional and relational labor meant to come from the other side.

When you overfunction:

  • commitment stays vague

  • effort becomes optional

  • situationships replace direction

  • “I’m not ready” becomes the permanent excuse

You are unconsciously teaching him that presence is not required for access to you.

I'm ready to stop over-functioning

Why This Feels Confusing

You’re not unavailable.
You’re not cold.
You’re not playing games.

You’re open.
Giving.
Patient.

Which is why it’s so disorienting when love still doesn’t deepen.

Because the issue isn’t your heart.

It’s the role you’ve been occupying.

In This Masterclass, You’ll See:

  • Why men stop planning when women start managing

  • How overfunctioning creates emotional dependency without devotion

  • The difference between feminine presence and feminine labor

  • Why situationships thrive when a woman fills the leadership vacuum

  • How to stop training others to give you less — without closing your heart

This isn’t about doing nothing.
It’s about no longer doing what prevents love from rising to meet you.

The Shift

When you stop overfunctioning, something changes immediately.

The dynamic recalibrates.
Effort reveals itself — or its absence does.

And either way, you get your power back.

This masterclass opens the door into UNION — where you learn how to stay rooted in yourself while allowing love to respond to you.

Overfunctioning

Why Doing More Is Killing Love — and How to Stop

$49 live workshop
March 18th
7:00pm EST / 4:00pm PST

Live teaching + replay included.

This is a single-session initiation into one of the most common patterns blocking commitment, polarity, and being chosen.

I'm ready to stop over-functioning

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