My most popular House of UNION™ experience for women who are tired of losing themselves in love
UNION™—CHOSEN
STOP CHASING.
STOP OVERTHINKING.
STOP LOSING YOURSELF IN LOVE.
Finally feel confident + secure in love without losing yourself trying to be chosen—even if years of therapy haven't stopped you from falling into the same patterns.
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I was healing my anxious attachment by acting like I wasn’t anxiously attached. By showing up as someone secure.
But that’s not actually what was happening.
Because those wounds weren’t actually healed. I did have to deal with a lot of stuff in that place if I wasn’t chasing. I had to look inward. But there was still something missing, and it was the healing piece.
I’ve gotten real good at getting to the root, but I wasn’t sure what to do with those roots until I watched your videos. And so having these tools is incredible.”
— Season
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You know the feeling.
You meet someone you actually like and suddenly…
You’re checking your phone. Replaying conversations. Wondering if you said the wrong thing.
Trying to figure out how he feels. Trying not to care too much. Trying to make sure you don’t mess it up.
Maybe you know you’re anxiously attached. Maybe you’ve done therapy. Read the books. Worked on your boundaries. Learned how to communicate.
You know your patterns better than most people know themselves.
And somehow, the second you start to really like someone, you stop feeling like yourself.
Which is exactly what we’re healing inside CHOSEN.
YOU DON’T HAVE A LOVE PROBLEM.
You have a pattern of leaving yourself for love.
Underneath the chasing, overthinking, obsessing, proving, performing and trying to be chosen is something deeper:
Self-abandonment.
Every time love feels uncertain, your attention leaves you and goes to him.
What does he think? What does he need? Why did he pull away? What should I say? How do I fix this? How do I make this work? How do I get him to choose me?
Meanwhile, there's a part of you inside saying: What about me? What do I feel? What do I need? What do I know to be true? What is actually happening?
Imagine that you have this little girl inside of you asking you to stay with her. She's hurt. She's scared. She needs you. And instead of staying with her, you leave.
You go check his stories. You look for reassurance. You try to figure out what he's thinking. You try to become what you think he wants. You try to save the relationship. You try to get him to choose you.
That's self-abandonment.
And this is why chasing isn't really about pursuing someone else.
Chasing is about abandoning yourself for love.
You can stop texting him and still abandon yourself. You can go no contact and still abandon yourself. You can tell yourself you're “choosing yourself” while secretly doing it because you hope it will finally make him choose you.
The deeper pattern is:
I'll lose myself before I lose you.
And you can’t build the relationship you actually want on a foundation of continually leaving yourself in order to keep it. Because when you're constantly performing, proving, shrinking and becoming who you think someone else wants you to be, you're not even giving him the opportunity to know and choose you.
UNION™—CHOSEN is where we change that.
We aren’t teaching you how to care less. Or teaching you how to become better at controlling yourself. Instead we are actually healing the parts of you that learned they had to leave themselves in order to receive love.
So you can want love. You can love another person, deeply. You can be open. You can be vulnerable. You can choose him.
Without leaving yourself in the process.
Chosen is for you if…
You’re not dealing with one behavior
You're dealing with an entire internal system.
You could call it anxious attachment. You might experience it as overthinking, obsessing, needing reassurance, checking his stories, trying to control the outcome or not being able to let go.
But underneath all those behaviors is an entire cluster of parts trying to protect you.
One part might be afraid of abandonment. Another might be afraid of rejection. One over-functions. One tries to be perfect. One tries to prove that you're worthy. One takes control. One people-pleases. One withdraws before it can be rejected.
And together, these parts create what I call your Chasing Cluster™.
Your Chasing Cluster™ is unique to you.
It was shaped by your experiences, your wounds, your unconscious beliefs, your nervous system and the ways you learned to protect yourself in love.
Anxious attachment is the label.
Your Chasing Cluster™ is what's happening underneath it.
This is why knowing you have anxious attachment hasn't necessarily changed it. And why trying harder not to text, obsess, overthink or ask for reassurance doesn't heal the pattern.
You're not dealing with one behavior you need to control. You're dealing with an entire internal system we need to understand and heal.
Inside UNION™—CHOSEN, we'll map your unique Chasing Cluster™ so you can finally work with what's actually creating the chasing, overthinking and anxiety in the first place.
What we’re going to heal
Chasing is only the symptom.
Underneath the texting, checking, overthinking, obsessing and needing reassurance is an entire internal system creating the pattern.
The parts of you that are afraid of abandonment.
The parts that are terrified of rejection.
The parts that learned to perform, prove, perfect, people-please or control in order to get love.
The nervous system activation that makes everything feel urgent.
The wounds that make his distance feel like a threat.
The unconscious beliefs that make being chosen feel connected to your worth.
The protective patterns that take over the second love feels uncertain.
This is what we’re actually going to heal.
Because you don’t need to become better at managing your chasing.
You need to heal what’s making you chase in the first place.
It’s not about pretending you don’t care. Waiting three hours to text back. Trying to become more mysterious. Learning how to make him chase you.
Or performing secure attachment while your entire nervous system is screaming underneath it.
UNION™—CHOSEN is about becoming the woman who can deeply love another person without leaving herself in the process.
The woman who can want him without needing him to validate her. Who can care without obsessing. Who can receive without chasing. Who can stay connected to herself even when love feels uncertain. Who doesn’t need to convince someone to choose her because she has already chosen herself.
THIS ISN’T ABOUT BECOMING
“UNBOTHERED”
From Chasing to Chosen
I wrote the book From Chasing to Chosen because I’ve spent years studying, teaching and living this work.
UNION™—CHOSEN is where we take that work deeper.
This isn’t more information about why you chase.
It’s 12 weeks of actually working with the wounds, patterns and parts of yourself underneath it.
Because knowing your pattern is one thing.
Becoming the woman who no longer needs it is another.
What’s included inside CHOSEN
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12-week UNION™—CHOSEN curriculum
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A UNION™—CHOSEN companion
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Weekly hot-seat calls with Kelsey
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Telegram community
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The UNION™ Library
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ERT™
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Access to LOVED™ monthly membership
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Monthly LOVED™ calls
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LOVED™ Telegram community + voice-note teachings
YOU DON’T NEED TO STOP WANTING LOVE.
You don’t need to become less emotional. Less romantic. Less passionate. Less open.
You don’t need to convince yourself that you don’t care.
You just need to stop leaving yourself to have it.
It’s time to stop chasing.
It’s time to stop trying to be chosen.
It’s time to become the woman who chooses herself first.
12 weeks to stop chasing, overthinking and abandoning yourself in love.
UNION™—CHOSEN
$2,397 CAD / $1,700 USD
(taxes not included)
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Frequently Asked Questions
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Yes and no.
I took my signature UNION™ program—the work I’ve been teaching and refining for the last three years—and went deeper and more specific.
Instead of one program trying to address every relationship pattern, I separated UNION™ into three distinct programs based on the three core problems I see women experiencing in love.
UNION™—CHOSEN is the first.
It’s the perfect companion to my book, From Chasing to Chosen, and is specifically designed to help you heal chasing, overthinking and anxious attachment at the root.
So if you’ve followed my work for years, you’ll recognize the philosophy of UNION™.
But UNION™—CHOSEN is a much more focused, expanded experience built specifically around the woman who keeps leaving herself for love.
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Yes. I personally lead every weekly UNION™ call.
There are two live call options every week:
Monday — 8 PM EST
Thursday — 10 AM ESTYou can attend both, but choose one each week for participation and hot seats.
The calls include live coaching, teaching + hot seats where I work directly with women on what’s happening in their lives.
And you don’t need to be in the hot seat to benefit.
You’ll recognize your own patterns as I coach other women while learning how to work with those patterns yourself.
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ERT™ is one of the core tools I teach inside UNION™.
Instead of just understanding why you chase, overthink or become anxiously attached, ERT™ helps you work with what’s actually underneath the pattern.
The emotions.
The body.
The wounded part.
The unmet need.
And yes—I teach you how to use it on yourself.
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I know.
Many of the women who come into UNION™ have already done years of therapy, attachment work, EMDR, journaling, plant medicine, manifestation work, read the books and developed an incredible amount of self-awareness.
And yet, the moment love activates them, they still find themselves falling into the same patterns.
Because knowing you have anxious attachment isn’t the same as healing your unique Chasing Cluster™.
And knowing why you do something isn’t always enough to change what happens when you’re activated.
Inside UNION™—CHOSEN, we go underneath the behavior and work with the unique parts, wounds, protective patterns and nervous-system responses creating your experience of chasing, overthinking and anxious attachment.
This isn’t about giving you more information about your patterns.
It’s about actually changing them.
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Chasing doesn’t stop when you get into a relationship.
It can look like overthinking, over-functioning, managing him, coaching, mothering, minimizing your needs, trying to control the relationship or abandoning yourself to keep the connection.
UNION™—CHOSEN is about healing the part of you that leaves yourself for love.
And that pattern can exist whether you’re dating, in a relationship or married.
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You don’t need to be dating someone to heal the patterns you bring into love.
Being single gives you the opportunity to recognize + heal the patterns of chasing, fantasy, overthinking and anxious attachment before your next relationship activates them.
So instead of waiting until you meet someone you really like and suddenly finding yourself back in the same pattern, you can start changing it now.
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UNION™—CHOSEN is designed to fit into your life, not become your life.
You’ll have your weekly curriculum + live calls, but the real work happens as you apply what you’re learning to your everyday life.
You don’t need to spend hours every day consuming content or trying to “heal.”
This isn’t about consuming more information. It’s about changing the patterns you’re already living.
Kelsey Gaudreault.
Your Guide
Kelsey is a feminine embodiment teacher, author of From Chasing to Chosen, and the founder of Become Your Own Dream Girl™. She has worked with women all over the world helping them stop chasing, heal the wound underneath the want, and become the woman love actually finds.
Kelsey is known for helping women stop abandoning themselves in the pursuit of love, validation, and worth. Her work bridges psychology, embodiment, feminine and masculine dynamics, and identity to help women return to the fullest expression of who they were created to be.
She is not here to give you a strategy. She is here to help you become someone who doesn't need one.